Kristine sent me an IM today, “I feel funny”, which I of course assumed she might be sick, and needed support. Of course I was wrong.
Her intent seemed to open a dialog to offer the charity of friendship. Because it’s a good thing to have: stood up for every invitation, not even a considerate phone call when she leaves me hanging, and she might admit to knowing me. She has a number of obligations, but her workload causes her to only see the bad. She doesn’t find any fault in cringing from me when we’re out with friends, or bailing completely on Valentines Day.
She’s surprised that when we were dating for 2.5 months, and she says “oh we just met” to my friends, it hurts the ego a bit, and makes my friends worry about me.
The bad part is that when telling her what she’s done, she really feels that “I had to work” suffices. That’s so like an engineer, but she’s offended by a great deal else.
I hate that when I tell her how it feels to be stood up, to be treated like smelly trash when we’re out with my friends, to avoid admitting any relationship with me, when I tell her how I felt and she is hurt by it, I feel bad for hurting her.
it’s a very negative thing. She did this to her last boyfriend (sorry, person-she-might-be-dating, maybe), she did it to me, and she’ll do it again. She’ll be 45, single, and without the children she so desperately wants.
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