April 5, 2008
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There are two important steps to follow before you begin your Match.com profile, or any online dating profile. Or hell, before you date at your shit together. You’ve heard it a million times, “you have to love yourself before you can love someone else,” and it’s true. To say something more appropriate along a similar vein “you have to know who you are before you can write about it.” If you can’t figure out who you are, you probably aren’t ready to date. Be honest with yourself about this one.
Find your archetype. Now that you know who you are, you need a simple archetype to live by to guide your decision-making. Are you the artist, the jock, the shy guy, the adventurer, the secure provider, the joker, the intellectual, etc.. Women will have an easier time digesting just who you are if you keep it simple. We’re accurately portraying the interesting you, but there will be plenty of time for your dream woman to get to know all of the nuances of your personality. When we do create our profile, all we’re trying to do is get the woman to initiate first contact, and in order to do that she has to “get” you. She won’t “get” you if your profile goes in a dozen different directions.
If you need help figuring this out, browse the profiles of the women you’re interested in. What are they like, and what are they looking for? Wait, no. Do this before you write your profile, whether you feel like you need to or not. You’ll see why you need it when you write your “about me.”
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