Yeah.
Ever think of trying online dating? Y’know, the Match.com’s, the Yahoo! Personals, the Craigslists of the world? Looking for a relationship? Looking for love? Looking to hook up? Match.com claims it’s okay to look. So go for it.
However, let me fill you in on the truth about online dating from a guy’s point of view. Can you find love? Will you meet your next mate? Can you go online to get laid? All of these are possible, but you will have your share of bad experiences before you have a good one. By the way, that holds true for both men and women.
First, let me explain where I’m coming from here.I joined Match.com for the first time in 1996. I was in college, worked a lot, didn’t live on (or anywhere near) campus and didn’t have much time to meet girls. Plus, honestly, I’m a bit of a geek and it just sounded cool. Back in those days, the internet (the information superhighway, hah!) was a very male dominated place, so the ratio of men to women in online dating was probably damn near 20-to-1. Even scarier, there was no such thing as a digital photo, so every meeting was a surprise. Having said that - even with photos, plan on having a few of those surprises yourself. Since then, I have been on dates with approximately 30 girls that I met online. I also tried Yahoo! Personals, Hot or Not, Craigslist and E-Harmony. Finally, I have been in three long-term relationships in my life and none of the three came from online dating.
So, could I enter into a long-term relationship with anyone that I met online? Probably, but I haven’t met her yet. Does 0 for 30 compare to ‘traditional’ means of meeting people? In my experience it’s much worse. Why?
Well, first off, the whole method lends itself to creating false impressions, both intentional and unintentional. Secondly, it’s perfectly natural to construct an internal concept or vision of the person with whom you are communicating, but haven’t met in person. Rarely does this vision match reality – it’s occasionally better, but often worse. But mostly, the problem lies in expectations.
It’s simple. Women go online to meet husbands. Guys go online to get laid.
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